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Tuesday, February 10, 2009 7:55 PM
Since young me & my siblings had always been taught by our dad that if we wanted sumtin, we have to earn hard for it. well, we weren't born wif a silver spoon. our family was average, my dad was e only 1 werkin back den to support e family. still, he has diz principle ware he wud never turn to others for help, no matter how hard up we were. but Alhamdulilah, we owaes managed to pull thru as a family wifout e help of others. datz y my dad always reminded us siblings, dat no matter how hard our life is, we shuden depend on others. he wud owaes said, "bia susa dulu, senang kemudian"
Dat is y since my teenage years, everytym i wanted sumtin i wud save up on my daily pocket money & finally buy e tings dat i wanted. sounds pathetic to u? well atlez i dun trouble my parents for e tings i need. i do werk hard for it.
Wen i started werkin back in 2004 & started earnin my own money, i still didnt used to spend on myself. half of my pae wud owaes go to payin bill, hp bill dat is. well wt do u expect, teenagers back den luv to sms rmb? haha. n it seems my fingers were very hardworking back den, per mth my sms wud go up to 600-900. yes dat much, crazy huh!
Apart from paying the bills, e rest of my pae wud usualy go to my parents & daily expense. e few is wat's left for shopping. so yeah, even up til werkin i didnt really njoyed spendin. it never was e, 'i want it i get it'
Later i got closed to hubby family, n i tel u, FIL luv to spent on me previously. everytym i went out wif dem he wud owaes sae,
"zura nk ape amek je k, tkmo malu"
But i guez coz of e wae i was brought up, e 'u wan sumtin earn for it' which my dad used to said, made me not used to how FIL was treatin me. i wazen used to juz gettin wt i want. it was juz awkward. even up til now wenever we go out wif PIL n dey told me to juz get wt i want, i wud decline. i was & am stil shy.
Wen me & hubby 1st got married, i must admit, we were quite hard up den. furthermore der was a period ware i wazen werkin & hubby was bringin home only $800 den. stil we pull thru every mth wifout any help. der was even once wen lil' boi was onli 5 mths old, hubby suddenly quited his job coz of a misunderstandin dat occured at werk, n i was juz werkin part tym earnin $500-600 mthly den. sumhow or rather, we did survived, wif lil help from MIL every now & den.
Later hubby got himself a job & i also started werkin full tym den so tingz started to get better. slowly, we c ourselves gettin more stable financially. n todae, Alhamdulilah, we are quite stable. i wun sae very stable, we wun noe wt wil happen tomoro, next mth, next yr. but atlez, our savings is starting to grow n we can now simply buy wat we wan. of coz, derz a limit to dat.
Overall, i juz tink itz all abt self-disipline. dat is y, i realli owe it to my dad for raising me wif such disipline. i so agree wif his saying, susa dulu senang kemudian. n juz fyi, me & hubby is totaly oposite of each oder ok! im so used to e 'earn to get wat u wan' while he is more of e 'i want it i get it'. haha. but well now dat we r both on our own, we sure do discipline ourself. n of coz, im e financial controller in e family. wat do u expect?
*smile*
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