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Monday, September 22, 2008 11:29 AM
For young married ladies lyk me, i bliv we share e same fear. n dat is, fear of our hubby cheatin on us. now dun get me wrong, not dat my hubby is doin so. i bliv dat dae wil neva cum. y i sae so? coz i blived he had his share of fun wif oder gerls before we got married. yes, he was a playboi back den. sumtin dat me & my frens who knew him find it hard to blived. but heck, he was one & i cant deny dat. however im glad at e end of e dae, he had choosen me to b his life companion.
After marriage, of coz i did had doubts in him for e 1st few mths. afterall, i used to have diz tinkin, a leopard wil neva change its spots. but well, he sure did proved me wrong. he managed to changed right after marriage. neva once had i caught him cheatin on me, no matter hw hard i tried. ahakz. as sum ppl myt sae, sblom kawen klau da byk pompan, lepas kawen setia pade satu. i gues my hubby hold on to dat sayin huh. LOL!
But well, sumtymz itz hard to sae dun u tink so? nw, we can NEVA fully understand e mind of a men. very complicated noh! i guez it all depends on each individual. not that im sayin, itz ok for guys to stray ard durin marriage. however i bliv, if a men do so, it sumhw gotta have sumtin to do wif us ladies too dun u tink so? lyk u noe, e wife naggin too much, e wife dun understand e hubby, e wife dun trust e hubby, so on & so forth. but agn, itz hard to sae. at tyms even wen e wife is oh-so-perfect, faithful, understandin, bla3, e hubby stil strays ard. so u tel me, how can we ever undastan e mind of a man?! tsk.
Ryt nw, a fren of mine is actuali goin thru diz dilemma. her hubby cheatin on her, dat is. as a fren, of coz i do wana help. esp since she had cum to me personally askin for help. ting is, hw? i dun wana sae e wrg tings & later get e blame. on anoder note, i dun reali noe e ful story so i cant sae much can i. but wel, accordin to wt she told me, her hubby has been goin out wif a gerl for a while now. n she found out after readin a sms sent by dat gerl to her hubby. n so a fon call was made to dat gerl & tadaaaa, all out babey.
U noe, if itz juz a gf/bf r'ship, i'll juz simply tel her, juz break up. but nw, since she's in a marriage, i cant juz tel her to divorce her hubby ryt. datz y i said, i dono how to help! grrrr. but well, ive told her to b patient. i guez, datz all i can sae. of coz, wteva decision she wana make is solely up to her. im juz prayin for e bez.
As for me, im thankful dat my hubby had been devoted to me all diz while. n ya, doh sum ppl wil sae, dun b too over confident, sedia kn payong sblom ujan. stil to me, wtz e point of gettin married if u r sort of lyk prepared for divorce in future true? i mean, we shuden even tink bout divorce. instead, we shud kip tryin hard to maintain our marriage. yes, itz easier said den done. but Insyallah, wif both party playin deir part, notin is impossible.
Oh wel, gues im blabberin too much here. im juz sharin my tots. doz who dun agree wif me, datz ur prob ok? have a heppy week ahead ppl!
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